Dating after weight loss
I hate the way the skin hangs down on my arms, and thighs, back and stomach.
I hate that it will take at least ,000 (if not more) in plastic surgery to rid these last 30 to 40 pounds off of my body.
It involves a total commitment to a lifestyle change.
Before my surgery nearly three years ago, I met with my surgeon, nutritionists, exercise coaches and a psychologist.
I also have stretch marks and surgery scars across my abdomen and stomach, so being intimate with my boyfriend can be intimidating at times.
I knew what I was getting into when I signed up for this, but that knowledge doesn't erase the self-consciousness I feel when I get out of the shower, or when a stranger or child snickers because they don't understand why my body looks the way it does. When I first had my surgery, the guy I was with had been a best friend of seven years.
Not just because it's such a slap to the face of a woman who worked so hard to achieve her goal, but because it could've been an amazing story.
See, here's the bottom line: The biggest thing that no one ever tells you about losing weight is that eventually, the number on the scale no longer matters."Any hopes I had of finally being comfortable in the summertime were dashed the first time I looked for shorts in a size 2 that were long enough to cover the drapes of extra skin that pooled around my thighs," she writes.But what she describes as the most painful truth of her extreme weight loss, and the part of her story that gripped me the most, was the insecurity of dating as a woman with a "secret" hiding under her clothes."As someone who has been living as an ‘after' for the past three years, I can assure you that the fairy tale just isn't true," she writes on her ."Things didn't suddenly become prime-time perfect when I lost 180 pounds.